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Torn and Confused

Q: I am newly married, and from a Christian family. I married when I was spiritually blind, and was born again soon after marriage.

My husband comes from a Hindu family, and even though I had doubts about this marriage, I just went ahead and did it.

Now that a few months have passed, and Diwali is nearing, he wants to put candle lights on the porch. He says he does not believe in them, but wants them out of habit. I find this hard to believe, and I tried to explain to him what those lights symbolize. But it only made him aggressive. His parents also want me to attend a Durga Puja function, just to “attend” but not to bow down and pray. I haven’t replied to them yet.

I am really torn and confused. I do not want to compromise, but at the same time I do not want to have an argument, or drama, with my in-laws and husband. Please can you advise me regarding this? I am really very disturbed regarding this issue. DB

The Perfect Marriage Counsellor

A: Thank you for your question. Congratulations on beginning married life as a Christian, and determining to remain faithful to Christ.

You are a new believer who married hastily this year, and now finds herself directly at odds with the Bible passage. 2 Co. 6:14-18 KJV;

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

One Flesh for Life

It’s plain, from what else you have written to me, that your husband is a make-believer, not a real believer. A fence-squatter, who has a degree of mental assent, but no heart relationship with the LORD Jesus Christ. He’s in an awful place of indecision and danger. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. Jas. 1:8 KJV.

Remember, God hates divorce (Mal. 2:16 “putting away” in the KJV) so do not be tempted to use the scripture above as a way out of your marriage.

Though you did not consult the LORD before you married, it is a fact you are both now one flesh in His eyes, and He wants you to remain so for life. Eph. 5:28-33 KJV;

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Clearly, God sees your marriage covenant as unbreakable as His own covenant with His Body on Earth: The Church.

How to resist the Devil

The suggestions your husband and in-laws have made urging you toward demon-worship are flaming arrows that have awoken you to the seriousness of your situation. There will be more arrows, so learn how to deal with them in the wisdom, grace, and power of God.

What God wants you to do

Resolve to stick close to Him by obeying His word in all things from now on without compromise. He is your Counsellor, so listen to Him, and obey Him.
Refuse to consider divorce or separation as options, instead determine to learn and grow as the Lord leads you through the situation, to fulfil His plan for your lives.
Be certain you are genuinely born of God, saved, a Christian, and that Christ really is LORD of your life, then do exactly as He tells you. For example, have you obeyed Him by being baptised by immersion in water since you were born again?
Receive the Baptism in the Holy Ghost, the power Christ offers you to walk in His Spirit and be an effective witness of His love, wisdom, and grace.
Study His Word, keep it, and stay filled with His Spirit.
You are a baby Christian, so resist the tendency to walk in the flesh by asking people what you should do. The Word and Spirit of God are all you need, depend upon, and follow Him because He leads in triumph. Remember He is Almighty.

Straightening out mixed up people and marriages is Christ’s speciality.

Almighty God wants to use you as His witness in your extended family.

Apologise to Him for being head-strong, and submit to His Lordship like an obedient child. The sooner you become as molten ghee in His saucepan, the quicker He will manifest His glory in your lives.

The situation is in your hands: Put yourself in His & follow Him.

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